
Girlfriends there's a new form of Bridezilla behaviour happening overseas and beware - it could be coming to our shores.
A recent article in the International Herald Tribune, 'It's Botox for you, dear bridesmaids' sheds light on a new trend happening in America, particularly for those over 30. Instead of gifting their beloved brideslaves with jewellery, brides are encouraging, if not demanding, their entourage indulge in a little cosmetic enhancement for the big day. And I don't mean just a manicure, facial, makeup or hair session. These brides are insisting on botox, teeth whitening, chemical peels or for a bridesmaid with age spots a course of Fraxel laser treatments. And they're planning these treatments in advance - months in advance.
As one bride-to-be put it, if she were ten years younger and tying the knot, a bracelet, necklace or matching earrings would suffice as a gift to her friends-in-waiting. But at 35 she felt an evening together at a medi spa was more special, particularly as in that decade most of her friends are aware of the effects of getting older.
But do bridesmaids agree? Some quite willingly will go along for the ride, others are more reluctant. One bridesmaid who was asked to have her breasts enlarged declined and chose to wear a push up bra instead (rightly so I think, there's quite a difference between a jab between the eyes and breast implants!). And these generous offers extend beyond the girls in matching dresses to the mother of the bride and mother-in-law. You'd need to have a good relationship with her to feel comfortable asking!
Part of this trend is attributed to the distribution of photos on social networking sites like Facebook. It's now possible to view wedding photos of people you'd never normally have the luxury of viewing. And no one wants to look like the ugly bridesmaid. If the brides doing it, and her best friend, you can bet the others will follow suit.
Another factor is a marketing push by cosmetic surgeons and medi-spa places at Bridal Fairs around the US. With enticing offerings such as Bridal Beauty Buffets, package treatments have been whipped up and are attractive offerings. Brides are now factoring in the course of treatments into her budget, perhaps forgoing other things to make up for it (although no one in their right mind would forgo the dream dress). For many, the bridesmaids are coming to the party and assisting with the cost (rather happily compared with buying a frock they may never wear again).
So is this trend happening here?
I conducted an unofficial survey and phoned Auckland based The Face Place to ask if they often saw bridal parties coming in for a group session. They said that while they see a lot of brides, they haven't as yet, seen any bridal parties en masse. Mostly because of the nature of consultations, each client is assessed individually by a doctor and there are many forms to fill. It's taken very seriously here and not viewed as 'party' type treatment.
I also phoned Birkenhead's The Elements Spa. On their website they list SPArties for any occasion. The menu includes massage, reflexology, mini manicure, mini pedicure, eyelash and eyebrow tint and tidy and a spray tan. Not quite the needle jabbing treatments that are currently en vogue. However Elements does offer these services and they could accommodate requests should they be asked.
I haven't been to a bride fair in a couple of years (since my own big day where incidentally I lavished Karen Walker necklaces on my bridesmaids and none of them had any cosmetic treatments - as you can see in the photo above they don't need it!), so i don't know if these are being marketed to brides-to-be here like they are in the States. But surely that is just a matter of time?
Perhaps it's a matter of cost? Maybe treatments in America are cheaper than here? Maybe, in a society that laps up the plastic fantastic look at a galloping rate, it's just a matter of another necessity being added to the bulging wedding details list. Perhaps we're a bit more down-to-earth here?
What do you think? Would you, or did you, insist on your bridal party undergoing appearance medicine for your big day? If you were a bridesmaid, and asked to have dermal fillers and botox, teeth whitening and so on - would you? Where would you draw the line at looking good for someone else's big day?